Molly Toomey, MSW, LCSW | Psychological Counselor & Clinical Social Worker | Germany/International & USA

Hi! I’m Molly Toomey, an American therapist, social worker, and migrant living in Germany. I offer queer- and trans-affirming, neurodiversity-affirming, kink-allied, and trauma-informed counseling in English to help people gain insight on their past and present, break free of patterns that don’t serve them, enjoy better relationships and greater self-worth, and step into the life they want.

My mission is to provide affirming, accessible, trauma-informed mental health support to folks who live outside the mainstream and often feel misunderstood or unseen, with a focus on:
◆ Migration & culture—supporting immigrants, expats, folks with culturally mixed or migrant roots, digital nomads, and other internationals
◆ Gender, sexual, & relationship diversity—supporting LGBTQIA+ folks, alternative sexualities and relationship models (BDSM/kink-affirming)
◆ Neurodivergence—supporting folks who are autistic, ADHD, AuDHD, bipolar, and beyond
– …and others who tick differently: spiritually alternative folks, people involved in subcultures, etc.

My goal is to help you move toward YOUR goals—supporting you in rewiring your brain for greater self-confidence and healthy, secure, stable connection along the way.

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With me, you’ll find support for navigating big life changes, big feelings, and big questions about yourself. I can help you to:
◆ Gain deep insight on your past and understand your present relationships and patterns
◆ Gently confront what may be holding you back or keeping you stuck in unhelpful cycles
◆ Navigate acute stresses and big life transitions—international moves, culture shock, coming out
◆ Explore your identities, values, unmet needs, desires, and what authentic living would look like for you
◆ Strengthen your boundaries, communication, and ability to safely deal with big feelings
◆ Tap into your existing strengths, build resources and community
◆ Start to heal from the bruises of the past
◆ Move towards kinder, healthier, and more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others
◆ Get out of “survival mode” and into your life
and more, in your own language.

As a psychological counselor and state-recognized social worker in Germany, I provide psychological care and socio-therapeutic support to folks in Germany and across the world online from my home base in Germany. I also welcome people who live in Jena and nearby (Weimar, Erfurt, Leipzig) to inquire about in-person walk-and-talk sessions in Jena.

*Note: I work with people of many different nationalities and cultural backgrounds. Americans living abroad, Germans, immigrants to Germany—all are welcome!

As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) licensed in my home state of Connecticut, USA, I also offer online therapy to CT residents: www.twotorchestherapy.com

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I’ve been in the business of helping people since 2010. Through counseling, psychotherapy, social work, sex education, and community advocacy, I’ve helped hundreds of people of all ages move toward inner clarity, confidence, connection, and liberation, working across gender and sexuality, language, culture, and country borders. I started out as a community-based sexuality educator and sexual health counselor, then brought this passion into my training and professional work as a therapist and clinical social worker. I provided individual psychotherapy and counseling in English and Spanish, spearheaded initiatives to connect LGBTQ+ and neurodivergent kids and parents to social and psychological support and community, and worked to shatter stigma about immigrants, LGBTQ+ folks, and mental health. I now have a private practice focused on supporting migrants and expats, LGBTQIA+ / Gender, Sexual, and Relationship Diverse communities, and neurodivergent folks. I work holistically and on multiple levels, supporting my communities through individual counseling and therapy, social work, and advocacy.

My counseling approach draws from intensive training in psychodynamic psychotherapy, a relational orientation, and a systemic, intersectional lens—as well as many years of clinical experience and social work. I believe that our relationships and the systems we’re in shape how we live and love, and that deep, genuine, attuned connection helps us heal from relational wounds and live our most authentic, fulfilling lives.

I am unapologetically queer- and trans-affirming, neuro-affirming, kink-affirming, and sex-positive. To me, being affirming is an active process: it means recognizing and respecting my clients’ identities and autonomy, and actively working to create an inviting, supportive space for them to be their full selves without judgment while gently dismantling internalized shame and stigma.

My approach is also informed by my own lived experiences as someone from a low-income background, a neurodivergent queer person with alternative lifestyle practices, someone who’s been both the majority and the minority, the local and the foreigner. I personally get what it’s like to be “in-between” and struggle with identity, community, belonging. Counseling with me is a space where you get to be who you are (whether queer, trans, questioning, or exploring!), find community with someone who “gets it” personally and professionally, and belong. I’m not a “blank-slate” therapist; I show up more fully in the therapeutic space than traditional therapists.

I am a native English speaker and can also offer support in German and Spanish.

I’d love to help you move through painful experiences (past and present), step out of isolation and alienation, and get connected with others and yourself! Please visit my international counseling website to learn more about my approach, specializations, backstory, and how I can help you: counselingwithmolly.com

**For residents of CONNECTICUT, USA: I can offer you therapy under my clinical license (CT LCSW license #15933). Please visit my therapy website for CT residents to learn more: twotorchestherapy.com**

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If you’re feeling ready to get un-stuck, gain clarity, understand your patterns, explore your identities and desires, and experience what it’s like to feel more joyful, connected, and whole, I’d love to join you for the journey! You can start by booking a free, non-binding introductory call with me.

**How to book your free intro call:**
You can book a 30-minute call with me by:
◆ Messaging me here on the International Therapist Directory
◆ Visiting my website and choosing one of the booking options here: https://counselingwithmolly.com/#book
◆ Emailing me directly at: hello@counselingwithmolly.com

I’m here to help move you toward your goals—to help you get “un-stuck” from the shadows of the past, to process tough experiences deeply but safely, to support you in building new skills and new experiences of connection, and to help you rewire yourself for healthy, safe, meaningful connection with others (and with yourself!).

You deserve clarity, joy, freedom, peace, and the confidence to take up space and be who you are. I want to help you get there. Let’s connect!