A Couple's Space to Repair with Dr. Pavini Moray

When you and your partner keep circling the same painful argument, understanding why it happens rarely makes it stop.

Couples who work with me learn to change the pattern where it actually lives: in your body, nervous system, and in the split second before one of you shuts down or lashes out.

Who am I? 
I’m Dr. Pavini Moray, a somatic coach and Relational Life Therapy (RLT) practitioner with a PhD in Somatic Psychology, working with couples since 2012. I help partners move through recurring conflict, emotional distance, betrayal, power struggles, mismatched needs, and the slow drift that turns lovers into roommates. My approach pairs RLT’s direct, truth-telling style with somatic practices that help each of you regulate, lower your defenses, and repair in real time, so new skills hold up at home after the session ends.

Sex and intimacy

Sex is often where a couple’s struggles show up first and get talked about last. With a background in sex therapy, I help partners speak plainly about desire, mismatched libido, avoidance, sexual shame, pain or numbness during intimacy, and rebuilding erotic trust after betrayal. Because my work is somatic, we approach sex through the body as well as through conversation, so each of you can notice what draws you toward your partner and what closes you down. Couples come away with a shared language for their sex life and a more honest, pleasurable, and connected intimacy that keeps growing after our work together ends.

Walking the talk: My own partnership
I come to this work as someone in a long-term partnership myself. My partner and I practice the same tools I teach, and I know from the inside how hard it can be to stay open when you feel hurt, and how much becomes possible when two people keep choosing each other through the hard seasons.

Ways we can work together
I offer multi-day couples intensives for focused, deep work, ongoing relationship coaching, and individual somatic coaching for partners doing their own growth alongside the relationship. 
I’m also the author of How to Hold Power (Penguin Random House) and Tending the Bones (North Atlantic Books).
Next Step

Reach out to schedule a free 30-min consultation and find out how I can help you transform what has felt impossible into the relationship you long for.